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The balancing acts of working mothers

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The balancing acts of working mothers

Many working mothers face the challenge of finding the right balance between their profession life and motherhood. Many books and articles have been written on the subject. If you ‘google it’ there is plenty of advice, opinions and tips to help you. I wish there were ready-made miracle solutions! The reality is that each of us has to find our own individual and unique balance.

I came across this wonderful series of photos taken by a photographer mom Lucy Gray. She tried to capture and tell the story of prima ballerinas who became mothers. What she learnt from being around them was that they actually became better dancers when they become mothers. Beautiful and inspiratinal photos. 

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aggression and empathy

Aggression – Empathy. Existential twins.

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Aggression and Empathy. Existential twins.

‘Empathy is the best antidote for aggression’ – says Jesper Juul in his video interview. I really enjoyed listening this video and his views on aggression. He talks about it as a normal part of child’s development and stresses the importance of allowing children to experience and express their frustration. Jesper Juul, Danish family therapists talks in this video about  agression with empathy, understanding and acceptance. Invaluable resources to parents. Useful to anyone working with children and also adults struggling with the acceptance of their own aggression.

Listen to the video interview with Jesper Juul.


post adoption blues

The Post Adoption Blues

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The Post Adoption Blues

‘The post adoption blues’ is a great book for all adoptive parents and professionals working with adoptive families. Karen J. Foli, a registered nurse, and her husband, John R. Thompson, a psychiatrist, talk openly about the “Post Adoption Depression Syndrome” (PADS). Drawing on their own personal experience as well as experience of other adoptive families and experts in the field, they offer the understanding, support, and resources to overcome the unforeseen challenges of adoption. 

‘This compassionate, illuminating, and ultimately uplifting book is the first to openly recognize the very normal feelings of stress that adoptive families encounter as they cope with the challenges and expectations of their new families. Where do parents turn when the waited-for bonding with their adopted child is slow to form? When they find themselves grieving over the birth child they couldn’t have? When the child they so eagerly welcomed into their home arrives with major, unexpected needs? Until now, adoptive parents have had to struggle silently with their feelings, which can range from flutters of anxiety to unbearable sadness’ .  Amazon.co.uk 

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Anger in Kids

Anger in Kids

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Anger in kids

Every parent struggles from time to time with the anger in kids. Handling it constructively can be challenging and draining.  Quite often were not taught how to deal with it in our childhood. Many of us were led to believe that expressing anger was  bad and not acceptable.  I see many Clients in the therapy room who have difficulties dealing with their anger, expressing and channelling it in a constructive way. Anger is a such important human emotion. It helps us to mobilise energy for action, set healthy personal boundaries, get our needs are met and sustain changes in our lives. If not expressed constructively it can lead to unhappiness, depression, anxiety and dissatisfaction in close relationships.

There is a link to an informative article about anger in children . Children use it to express the whole spectrum of feelings.  Sadness, anxiety, any painful feelings might be expressed by a child as an anger.

Therefore it is important that learn to understand anger in our children and show them skills to express it in a constructive way.

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Bulimia nervosa is an eating disorder

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Bulimia nervosa is an eating disorder

… and mental health condition. 

People who have bulimia try to control their weight by severely restricting the amount of food they eat, then binge eating and purging the food from their body by making themselves vomit or using laxatives.

As with other eating disorders, bulimia nervosa can be associated with:

low self-esteem
alcohol misuse
depression
self-harm

Learn more about the causes of bulimia nervosa.

NHS Info


Enmeshment

Enmeshment versus differentiation in relationships

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Enmeshment, emotional cut off and differentiation in relationships.

Merging emotionally  -enmeshment, with another person results in losing our individual identity. Emotionally cutting off might be the way to protect yourself but often results in severing the relationship.

These are the conflicting choices we often face in close and intimate relationships.

The author of the following article points out the third option – differentiation. Maintaining your own individual identity while remaining emotionally connected.  You can be with another person without being pulled emotionally.

”In order to separate your reactions from the other person’s emotions, you have to focus on yourself. This might require a heavy dose of acceptance. Accepting your own thoughts and feelings, accepting the loneliness of individuality. Accepting the necessity of allowing the other person to work through his or her feelings on his/her own.”

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Healthy relationships need boundaries

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Healthy relationships need boundaries

We are all seek enriching and healthy intimate relationships but to be intimate with another person we need to  first define and understand our own boundaries. The boundary  as “the line where I end and someone else begins.”

The concept of contact boundary is a key notion in Gestalt therapy. It is seen as the place where two people meet, exchange, nourish, where the change and growth takes place.

I have found this article on the subject of boundaries in healthy relationships with some simple suggestions worth reflecting on.

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Close relationships

Close relationships – what’s in it for us?

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Close relationships – what’s in it for us?

Close relationships are like vitamins to our system! We are social animals and spend a lot of time with other people. Relationships play an important part in our healthy well-being.

The following article gives more light on reasons why and benefits of those relationships. They are our important psychological recourse. They help fight off stressful events in life, deal with failure, unfavourable feedback, bolster self-esteem and overall life satisfaction. The list of benefits is long!

It seems that finding time and looking after our close relationships is well worth it.

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